More On Flattery

Yesterday I wrote about the distinction between true appreciation and real compliments to people's hard work versus empty flattery. Today's post continues on that theme. In his book How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie continues his thoughts on flattery writing, "That's all flattery is – cheap praise. I once read a definition … Continue reading More On Flattery

The Difference Between Appreciation and Flattery

Flattery can be dangerous. It is nice to be flattered, but it can be distorting, can lead one to make rash decisions, and can make you overconfident and close-minded. We all want to be appreciated in our lives for what we do, but we should keep our guard up to recognize when someone is trying … Continue reading The Difference Between Appreciation and Flattery

Motivated to Appear Generous

One of the big challenges in life is being content with ourselves and our work without needing others to notice the good things we have done. As social creatures we want acknowledgement, praise, and approval from our fellow humans, so simply being good or doing good on our own doesn't seem to satisfy us in … Continue reading Motivated to Appear Generous

Talking, Taking Action, Working Hard, Being Afraid

I remember listening to a podcast a while back and learning about a study that examined what happened with children's performance on tests when they received praise. After being given a test, a group of students were praised for their hard work in studying and preparing for the test and told that they did well … Continue reading Talking, Taking Action, Working Hard, Being Afraid

Talking, Taking Action, Working Hard, and Being Afraid

I remember listening to a podcast a while back and learning about a study that examined what happened with children's performance on tests when they received praise. After being given a test, a group of students were praised for their hard work in studying and preparing for the test and told that they did well … Continue reading Talking, Taking Action, Working Hard, and Being Afraid

It Comes Down to Purpose

John Boyd was a brilliant military officer, strategist, and consultant who helped shape a generation of military leaders. Boyd is the focus of one chapter in Ryan Holiday's book, Ego is the Enemy, titled, "To Be or To Do?" Boyd, Holiday explains, was a terrific air force pilot and a very insightful and influential mind … Continue reading It Comes Down to Purpose

Seeing Yourself With A Little Distance

In his book The Ego is the Enemy, author Ryan Holiday writes  the following, "You must practice seeing yourself with a little distance, cultivating the ability to get out of your own head. Detachment is a sort of natural ego antidote. It's easy to be emotionally invested and infatuated with your own work. Any and … Continue reading Seeing Yourself With A Little Distance