External Versus Internal Goals

External Versus Internal Goals

I don't think about it as much any more, but several years ago I was nearly obsessed with the idea of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation. I ran cross country in high school and at the time I was very motivated by winning medals, winning a state championship, and impressing my friends and family. After graduating … Continue reading External Versus Internal Goals

Self-Control Depletion, Continued

Self-Control Depletion, Continued

"The evidence is persuasive," writes Daniel Kahneman in Thinking Fast and Slow, "activities that impose high demands on System 2 require self-control, and the exertion of self-control is depleting and unpleasant. Unlike cognitive load, ego depletion is at least in part a loss of motivation."   Yesterday I wrote about our misconceptions regarding individual self-control. … Continue reading Self-Control Depletion, Continued

Keep What’s Meaningful

The last few weeks I have been wasting time with thing that are not meaningful. My time and attention have been eaten away by things that don't add value to my life and leave me feeling slightly guilty.   This morning I recognized, when I took advantage of an extra 30 minutes in my schedule, … Continue reading Keep What’s Meaningful

Seeing Yourself With A Little Distance

In his book The Ego is the Enemy, author Ryan Holiday writes  the following, "You must practice seeing yourself with a little distance, cultivating the ability to get out of your own head. Detachment is a sort of natural ego antidote. It's easy to be emotionally invested and infatuated with your own work. Any and … Continue reading Seeing Yourself With A Little Distance

Asking Others What They Really Want

The Coaching Habit is Michael Bungay Stanier's book about how to become a more effective coach and help the people you work with, manage, or coach to become the best version of themselves possible. His book is full of both theory and practical applications, looking at psychology and building on his own coaching experiences and experiments. … Continue reading Asking Others What They Really Want