"If exchanging Information were the be-all and end-all of conversation, then we would expect people to be greedy listeners and stingy speakers. Instead, we typically find ourselves with the opposite attitude: eager to speak at ever opportunity." Kevin Simler and Robin Hanson write this in the book The Elephant in the Brain as they attempt to understand … Continue reading Where are the Greedy Listeners?
In our general lives, conversation is interesting. What is interesting, however, is often how uninteresting our conversation actually is. When we talk to each other we never really have a full conversation with lots of data, with great background context, or with a lot of acknowledgement of other people's thoughts or experiences. A lot of … Continue reading Paying Attention to our Conversations
In his book The Coaching Habit, Michale Bungay Stanier suggests that we all have an advice monster living inside us. The advice monster knows what is best for everyone. It knows how to solve the worlds problems. It is a genius and has no faults. It knows other people so well that it doesn't need to … Continue reading Advice Monster