Speakers are Eager to Impress

The last few days I have been writing about communication and asking what our communication is really all about if it is not just about facts and conveying information. When just talking to someone or communicating anything we seem to be including a lot of information that we are not even aware of. One of … Continue reading Speakers are Eager to Impress

Where are the Greedy Listeners?

"If exchanging Information were the be-all and end-all of conversation, then we would expect people to be greedy listeners and stingy speakers. Instead, we typically find ourselves with the opposite attitude: eager to speak at ever opportunity." Kevin Simler and Robin Hanson write this in the book The Elephant in the Brain as they attempt to understand … Continue reading Where are the Greedy Listeners?

The Trouble with Labels

"The troubling thing about labels is that we very seldom have the exact same definitions for them," Colin Wright writes in his book Becoming Who We Need To Be. I am disappointed by how frequently we use labels without giving them much thought. Labels are a necessity and a way to convey a lot of … Continue reading The Trouble with Labels

Answers Versus Questions

I read Michael Bungay Stanier's book The Coaching Habit about a year ago, but I still struggle to adapt his main point into my daily life. What Bungay Stanier recommends is that we ask more questions in conversations, because questions get the other person thinking in a way that develops their thoughts more thoroughly. We like … Continue reading Answers Versus Questions

Kickstarting Conversations

When you are coaching someone professionally, meeting with a colleague or associate, or just hanging out with a spouse or friend, how do you really get around to having important conversations? In my life, I too frequently have quick chats about mundane topics like the weather that often don't lead to something more interesting. Sometimes, … Continue reading Kickstarting Conversations

Discussing Differences In Action

Author Colin Wright provides some useful advice for disagreements within relationships in his book, Some Thoughts About Relationships. In a section of the book, Wright focuses on our arguments and disagreements with our partners, and how we can have more constructive discussions instead of heated arguments. His advice requires some self-awareness and self-reflection in the … Continue reading Discussing Differences In Action