Don’t Spend Too Much Time Talking and Too Little Time Doing

One of the aspects of Ryan Holiday's book Ego is the Enemy that I really like is the way that Holiday helps us with strategies and advice for achieving our goals. His main focus in the book is on our ego, and how our ego can trip us up and prevent us from reach the destinations … Continue reading Don’t Spend Too Much Time Talking and Too Little Time Doing

Advice from Isocrates

In Ego is the Enemy, author Ryan Holiday includes a quote from a teacher in Athens named Isocrates around 374 B.C. who wrote a letter to a young man who had recently lost his father. Holiday includes several lines and pieces of advice from Isocrates, and one that stood out to me when reading Holiday's … Continue reading Advice from Isocrates

Coaching is About Curiosity

One of the final paragraphs from Michael Bungay Stanier's book The Coaching Habit  reads, "But the real secret sauce here is building a habit of curiosity. The change of behavior that's going to serve you most powerfully is simply this: a little less advice, a little more curiosity. Find your own questions, find your own voice. … Continue reading Coaching is About Curiosity

Advice Doesn’t Help Us Generate Knowledge

As you would expect, Michael Bungay Stanier's book The Coaching Habit is all about how to be a more effective coach. Part of becoming a more effective coach involves understanding how the brain works so that you can understand how the people you coach are going to learn and react in certain situations. To help demonstrate … Continue reading Advice Doesn’t Help Us Generate Knowledge

Answers Versus Questions

I read Michael Bungay Stanier's book The Coaching Habit about a year ago, but I still struggle to adapt his main point into my daily life. What Bungay Stanier recommends is that we ask more questions in conversations, because questions get the other person thinking in a way that develops their thoughts more thoroughly. We like … Continue reading Answers Versus Questions

Changing Our Speaking and Advice Giving Habit

Michael Bungay Stanier's book The Coaching Habit is all about changing the ways we relate to others by changing how we give advice to, listen to, and generally speak with those around us. Most of the time, as Robin Hanson and Kevin Simler explain in their book The Elephant in the Brain, we are in a … Continue reading Changing Our Speaking and Advice Giving Habit