I've recently watched The Hobbit trilogy, and images of Tolkien's dwarf kings consumed with greed and gold have stuck with me. For whatever reason, the image of King Thror spinning around in a state of dazed confusion among his treasure, and the image of Thorin becoming corrupted by the same gold bounty have replayed through … Continue reading Do We Need Some Type of Limit?
I have noticed in my own life that I become upset, frustrated, and anxious when I think first and foremost about my wants. Despite having a house, being in a good marriage, and being fit from getting to do a lot of running, I am always able to see more in my life that I … Continue reading Build Relationships by Thinking of Others First
A frustrating thing about humanity is that we get tired of what we have pretty quickly. A new house, a new job, a new car all become part of our normal and fade to the background just a short time after we have them. The newness of the thing and the excitement it makes us … Continue reading Desires
In Letters From a Stoic a passage from Seneca reads, "How noble it is to be contented and not to be dependent upon fortune." Something I find myself returning to all the time is the idea that I am fine and complete on my own, without needing external validation from someone else to tell me … Continue reading Being Content Without a Great Fortune
Goal setting and prioritization is an incredibly challenging and difficult process. It is hard to know what one really wants to do and what truly motivates someone. We hold a lot of competing values in our head when we try to set our goals, and often we get tripped up and set goals for ourselves … Continue reading What is it that I Want to Accomplish?
Ryan Holiday's book Ego is the Enemy helped me really understand the benefits of getting away from habits, thoughts, and behaviors that serve to boost the ego. His writing has helped me better think through my desires and the actions I take to reach those desires. Focusing on my ego and understanding the destructive nature … Continue reading The Struggle of Great Work
I am always surprised by how hard it is for myself, and really for anyone, to answer what sounds like one of the simplest questions that we could be presented with: "What do you want?" We go through life with desires, pursuing the things that will make us happy, wake us up in the … Continue reading More on the Goldfish Question
The Coaching Habit is Michael Bungay Stanier's book about how to become a more effective coach and help the people you work with, manage, or coach to become the best version of themselves possible. His book is full of both theory and practical applications, looking at psychology and building on his own coaching experiences and experiments. … Continue reading Asking Others What They Really Want
In his book Considerations Colin Wright addresses a topic that was very important for me to work through as I got through college. About halfway through my college career I began to really examine what I wanted to achieve from college and what I expected my life to be like. I faced quite a bit of … Continue reading The Expectations of Others
In his letter to James Harmon for Harmon’s book, Take My Advice, Scott Russell Sanders comments on the things we desire. Sanders writes, “Love simply. By that I mean, think about what you actually need for a good life, not what friends or ads have taught you to want.” This is a very meaningful quote to … Continue reading Simplicity